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There are many disturbing truths about marriage. To me (Quora), the most disturbing is how the actual thing is so vastly different than anything it’s purported to be. 1. Marriage is not unconditional love There is hate. Resentment. There is bitterness. Isolation. Betrayal. And pain. You can't feel love for your spouse 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. It's just not honestly possible. Most times you have to fill up the space by pretending to love. 2. Marriage has inertia There are times when we cannot access our love. Sometimes, it’s marriage – not love – that keeps us married. This thing manifests in shared cutlery and mattresses, anniversary rituals and holiday cards – this thing sometimes keeps us together. 3. Marriage is not the agent nor the perfection of you It doesn’t fill your cracks and makes you complete. It’s not what you’re missing in life. It’s not the fulfillment of your true self. Marriage doesn’t do anything; it – perhaps – allows you to do th...

Whoever says "most African couples' are not romantic is absolutely telling the truth..... Many marriages are just about sleeping, waking, eating, cooking, raising the kids, working and ageing together till death comes..... Many couples only hug each other when they receive a piece of goodness.... They only kiss each other during copulation.... The husband only puts food in his wife's mouth when she is terminally ill and unable to feed herself.... Many wives only buy gifts for their husbands when he is hospitalized..... The only time couples race together is when there is danger somewhere like when kata-kata don burst and everyone is running.... The only thing that makes couples go for an evening stroll is when they have something vital to discuss and they don't want the children to hear...... The only time some couples eat together is when their in-laws are around...... The only thing that makes couples bath together is when they have a flight to catch and...