Undeniable Warning Signs That Your Relationship Is Abusive

If he/she does any of these things, you need to get out and get help.

Women/Men don't plan to enter into abusive relationships. In fact, many /menwomen who've escaped swear to themselves that they will know the signs of an abusive relationship and never get into another one, only to find themselves becoming victims of abuse once again.

Sadly, it takes an average of five to seven acts of violence before a woman leaves her abuser. So, why not plan to avoid entering into an abusive relationship in the first place? 


1. He/she pushes for quick involvement.

He/she comes on strong, claiming, "I've never felt loved like this before by anyone." You get pressured for an exclusive commitment almost immediately.

He comes on strong, claiming, "I've never felt loved like this before by anyone." You get pressured for an exclusive commitment almost immediately.

2. There's constant jealousy.
Your partner is excessively possessive, calls constantly, or visits unexpectedly.

3. He/she's controlling.
He interrogates you intensely about who you talked to and where you were, checks mileage on the car, keeps all the money or asks for receipts, and insists you ask for permission to go anywhere or do anything.

4. He/she has very unrealistic expectations.
He/she expects perfection from you and for you to meet his every need.

5. There's isolation.
He/she tries to cut you off from family and friends, deprives you of a phone or car, or tries to prevent you from holding a job.

6. He/she blames others for his own mistakes.
The boss, family, you — it's always someone else's fault if anything goes wrong.

7. He/she makes everyone else responsible for his feelings.
The abuser says, "You make me angry" instead of "I'm angry," or, "I wouldn't get so pissed off if you wouldn't..."

8. He/she's hypersensitive.
He/she's easily insulted and will often rant and rave about injustices that are just part of life.

9. He/she's cruel to animals and children. 
He/she kills or punishes animals brutally. He also may expect children to do things beyond their ability or tease them until they cry.

10. He/she uses "playful" force during sex.
He/she enjoys throwing you down or holding you down against your will; he/she finds the idea of rape exciting. He/she intimidates, manipulates or forces you to engage in unwanted sex acts.

11. There's verbal abuse.
He/she constantly criticizes you or says cruel things. He degrades, curses and calls you ugly names. He will use vulnerable points about your past or current life against you.


12. There are rigid gender roles in the relationship.
He/she expects you to serve, obey and remain at home.

13. He/she has sudden mood swings.
He switches from loving to angry in a matter of minutes.

14. He/she has a past of battering.
He/she admits to hitting women in the past, but states that they or the situation brought it on.

15. He/she threatens violence.
He/she makes statements such as, "I'll break your neck," but then dismisses it with, "I really didn't mean it."



culled from yourtango